How do we develop a mature prayer life and a deeper walk with God?
I want to speak to you about prayer today, especially for us women because we’re so stinkin’ busy, like all the time, am I right?
First, I specifically want to talk about the time you spend in prayer… because this has always been a tough one for me. We, especially us women, are no longer only caregivers and housekeepers. Most of us have a career outside of the home as well as the endless duties that come with being a wife, a mom, a housekeeper, cook, valet… all the things!
And in the middle of all that life chaos, we just kind of pray on a whim maybe a couple times a week. Maybe only at church. Or maybe even your prayer life is just really stale, and you haven’t spent anytime with the father at all.
Sometimes we only pray for pressing concerns like when someone we love gets sick or we get fearful of what’s going on in the world. And as we go on about our daily lives without communication with God, we’re essentially cutting off God’s blessings, his nurturing, his healing, his protection, and his presence.
God doesn’t force himself on us. We have to invite him in consistently. If you just cut off communication with your parents or your spouse, they still love you, but the relationship is strained and broken right?
You don’t receive any of the benefits of having a relationship with that person. It’s the same with God. And when we don’t communicate with him on the regular, we run the risk of missing out on all the blessings he has, not to mention just experiencing his amazing and powerful love that we crave.
I’ve been there. I still must correct it at times. I catch myself going a few days with only a quick bedtime prayer and then I suddenly find myself anxious or fearful of things going on around me. I get overwhelmed, I feel rushed, sometimes I just feel down and not even knowing why. But ultimately, the reason is because I’m not being fulfilled because I’m not reaching out and staying connected with my creator.
I’m not saying that you have to spend hours a day praying. But are you spending enough time to give and receive what needs to be given and received?
I always recommend that those who aren’t seasoned prayers or if you’re just starting to build your relationship with God and building your faith, just start with 5 minutes a day. I did that for a very long time. But it kind of became something that I was putting a time limit on so I could get it over with and move on with the rest of my day. I would literally give myself 5-10 minutes and just shut it down even when I felt like I had more to pray about. Not the best way to view prayer, huh?
God wants that communication with us but he doesn’t need it… we’re the ones who desperately need it. But it’s because we’re so busy that we look at prayer like an extra duty and we just kinda want to get it over with. I had to ask for forgiveness once I realized what I was doing.
Now, I don’t put a time limit on it at all. If it’s just five minutes of prayer but I feel like I gave my worship wholeheartedly and prayed for what I desire or need for myself and others, then that’s fine. But most of the time, when I truly seek to connect and know him, I’m asking him questions, I’m praying for little things, big things, and before I know it, 30 minutes have passed by.
So, you see the more time you spend with God… the more time you’ll WANT to spend with God.
I’ve rarely left a genuine prayer time not feeling refreshed and renewed.
Look, any prayer time is better than no communication at all, but as you mature in your faith, it’s no longer just something you have to do to check off a box. It becomes something you long for, you know you need it, you desire to sense God close to you, you’re expectant that he will hear you and answer.
And not every prayer is going to be a long and overwhelming connection with God. It’s ok to pray those little prayers. In fact, Paul tells us to pray without ceasing and that means that as we go through our day, making decisions, doing tasks, we just send up a little prayer acknowledging that he’s there, he’s with you, and he’s part of everything you do.
But it’s in those quiet, set aside times that we truly connect. That’s why Jesus went away from the crowds pretty often to be refreshed and renewed. And if he needs to do that, so do we.
Are You Praying for A Deeper Walk?
Now, I also want to talk just a bit about the content of our prayers. I used to think… how on earth can I pray for all the people that need prayer, and all the things in the world that need prayer?
Like I would be on my knees for the rest of my life.
We are supposed to pray for one another, we’re supposed to pray for our leaders, and for the lost. But sometimes we miss praying for one of the most essential things, and that is to grow in our relationship with him. Do you actually pray for that?
Sometimes we just speak the little daily prayers of “keep so and so protected” or “heal this person”.. but I’m talking about praying just to know him better and give him complete surrender and praise for the God he is.
When we spend time alone with God and just worship Him for who He is, that’s when chains fall off and walls begin to come down. We can’t keep going into the presence of God and NOT be changed. You cannot stay the same.
I pray for my child, my husband, my church, and I even stop sometimes to pray for people I don’t know, but I know of them and the difficulty their going through. But I used to fail to pray for myself and for an increase of faith, strength to do what he’s called me to do, that I would be a godly influence on those around me, that his spirit would lead me in every action, word, and thought.
We have to be filled, full of faith, full of his grace, wisdom, strength, and compassion to truly make a powerful impact.
What I want you to know is that our cup has to be filled before we can go filling up other cups. We have to experience the love of Christ which passes knowledge so that we may be filled with the fullness of God (Ephesians 3:19) and know him as the God who moves and does exceeding and abundantly above what we could ask or even imagine (Ephesians 3:20).
I’m not saying that you have to be perfected or super mature to pray for others… but if you are praying for spiritual growth, discernment, wisdom, knowledge, compassion, and all the things… you could then come into a position to fulfill prayers by allowing God to use you.
As a woman, you are not just an afterthought of God’s creation of man. God knew that this world needed you. The world, your nation, your community, and your family need a prayed-up woman of God who is filled with wisdom and God’s holy spirit to speak life and truth and display God’s nature. We first have to know who we are in and to Christ before we can go praying powerful prayers.
It’s not about striving to be strong and more powerful than men, it’s not about trying to do as much as you can to prove your worth or prove your whit. It’s about getting closer to the God who wants to use you for his glory and fill you with the knowledge of who he is and the love that goes beyond what our minds even think love is… It’s praying that your heart, your emotions, mind, actions, and that your will, will be transformed.
He gave women beautiful qualities that only we can provide this world. He gave you, as a uniquely crafted individual, skills, talents, and abilities that only you can provide this world.
So, how are you going to let God use you and are you praying to be used and given the opportunity to use those gifts? We have to continually seek after it, seek after Him, nurture what God has already given us so that we can be used for greater things. Is your faith and your walk with God at the maturity level of asking what you can do for him instead of just what he can do for you?
Do you trust him even if life doesn’t look like what you expected yet? Do you appreciate and praise God for what he’s already done or are you waiting for him to give you more before you worship? Are you fully repentant and seeking for God to show you what needs to be changed?
Your faith and your prayers will not mature if you don’t spend that alone time with him regularly, seeking to know him. Seeking his perspective and his will. It’s in these times of prayer that we discover God’s nature, his love, and desires for us.
Let me Pray for ya’ll…
God, we just come to you right now to show our gratitude for who you are. You are perfect love, a holy God, there is none above you or beside you…or even close to you. You aren’t a God that is far away or distant from us. You’re a God that is close, seeking our hearts, changing us from the inside out. We know who you are but we desire to know you even more. We know that our sin and our humanness can blind us from the spiritual things and keep us from seeing what we need for the good of our souls. I come in agreement right now with your word that says you are near to us, that you hear us, and that you are not slow to keeping your promises. I break the agreement with the enemy who tells us our words don’t reach you and that you have forgotten us. The enemy is a liar and a thief. So right now, we break any agreement with his lies and we proclaim the truth… that you are God, you are good, and you care about us more than we can comprehend in our limited minds. Help us in our unbelief and remind us of your faithfulness as we train ourselves to stay in constant communication with you regardless of our feelings or our distorted thinking. I pray all these things in Jesus' name. Amen.
I hope you guys are claiming the truth right now and that you break the enemy’s agreement right along with me. He’s so sneaky and will do anything to keep you from getting on your knees before God to be strengthened, because he knows of God’s faithfulness and he knows that you will become a threat to him. So, rebuke that today. Stay in communication with the father, pray up and be the example for your family and your community.
Thank you guys for being here and soaking in this message God has given me. If this post encouraged you or empowered you, please let me know in the comments! Share this with someone today who needs to hear it. And most important of all, go talk to God today and be refreshed.
I’ll talk to you guys next week. Bye for now.