Hey friends! So, we are picking back up from Part 1 of this series and still covering the irrational beliefs that keep you stuck. Stuck in your anxious feelings, anger, fear, and a bunch of other negative consequences because of your irrational belief system.
So realize, once again, that these beliefs can cause you not just mental consequences, but the behaviors are soon to follow. Insecurities make you act out in ways that deflect and hinder solid relationships that we crave and need. Insecurities can make us extremely introverted to the point of being socially awkward. Insecurities can bring on self-hatred which can lead to punishing ourselves whether by restriction of food, activities that we enjoy, so many things. So, I hope you don’t take these topics lightly because I’m here to help you move past these roadblocks in your mind that hinder you from being the best version of you that you can be. Let's jump into belief #3!
3. Believing that some people are bad and that they should be punished for being that way and then holding onto grudges and hatred until you see justice.
Guys, this is a dangerous place to be. Now, I believe in the Bible when it says we are not naturally good. Mark 7:21-23 says for from within, out of the heart of man, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, coveting, wickedness, deceit, sensuality, envy, slander, pride, foolishness. All these evil things come from within, and they defile a person. We’re not great! So yes, I believe people are naturally against the good nature of God because of sin.
The problem is, there are some people that want to act like other people are bad, and they’re not. And this can play out in a number of ways.. it can be drastic like taking the whole eye for an eye thing literally and doing to the other person what was done to them, but it could also look like unforgiveness, malice and hatred in your heart towards people - Not letting go and not forgiving others showing mercy and grace like we’ve been shown. That’s where the danger lies. God says that if we cannot forgive others, then we can’t be forgiven either. So if forgiveness is something you struggle with because you feel like the other person doesn’t deserve it, you’re in the wrong.
You’ve let your heart grow cold towards another person, or maybe an entire race, or people on the other side of politics. It doesn’t matter what you think of them because it’s not our job to condemn. It’s not an inherent right of ours to hold onto unforgiveness… even if the offense was great. Because see we’re all sinful, we all do things that hurt others, and if you’re holding hatred or unforgiveness because of someone’s actions, you’re putting yourself in a dangerous spot. Unforgiveness is a poison. I’m sure you’ve heard it’s like drinking poison hoping the other person dies from it. It does you absolutely no good and it actually harms you.
So this belief that people are bad is correct, but believing that you are the judge of them being punished is a belief that will seep into every other part of your life like a slow poison. So I urge you to remember the wrongs that you’ve been forgiven of. God shows us endless amounts of mercy!
4. Believing that when things don’t go the way you’d like them to, it is catastrophic.
You believe the world is crumbling and that tragedy is impending if things don’t go perfectly. We want things to go just as we planned or else it’s devastating. It’s like we feel out of control and it terrifies us. But being scared of not having control is just our sinful pride. We don’t truly trust God that he’s got us and that no matter how things go, no matter how crazy this world gets, no matter who is president…. We’ll be ok because we know the end of the story.
We are urged to think of things above right? We’re to think of eternal matters over earthly ones because if we are so entrenched on earthly matters, our hope and confidence become shattered. Because in case you haven’t noticed, the world is kinda sucky. And if our hope is in the things of this world, those hopes will go down the drain with the rest of the world and it’s materialism, it’s false promises, and it’s selfish ambitions. Things are not always going to go the way we want them to… and honestly, it shouldn’t. We are not all wise or all knowing. We don’t truly know what’s best for us. We think material things are the source of our joy and peace. It’s lies… and we often fall for them.
We CANNOT put our trust and our hope in the things of the world. It’s deception of the greatest kind and leads to anxiety and overwhelm when things don’t go our way and we feel out of control. But if our trust is in the One who created us, sustains us, and provides for us, we can be free of worry. I’m not saying this is going to happen overnight. It takes time to build trust. You have to talk to Him daily, testifying that you believe Him when he says you are cared for and have everything you need. He keeps in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast because they trust in you- Isaiah 26:3.
While we’re on the subject of this irrational belief that if things don’t go as planned, we are doomed. A lot of people experience this feeling of dread and lack of self-worth when they experience some type of failure. But, failure is inevitable. It isn’t bad, it’s just that we humans have associated failure with bad feelings for so long, that we feel lost, fearful, and defeated when we experience it. The truth is that failure is actually a good thing because If you’re not failing, you’re not even trying anything. The most successful, wise, and assured people are those that take risks and know that failure is a part of the process. You are not a failure if your plans fail. Good things come from failing. You learn, you grow, you find out what doesn’t work. And that is absolutely necessary for all things in life… relationships, careers, spiritual life… and once you can accept that failure is inevitable and good for you, you won’t be so distraught when your ideas or actions fail. Start embracing failures today friends. I fail all the time, and it’s awesome because I’m learning!
And last for this blog post but not least...
5. Believing that happiness is an external factor and that you have no control over those things.
It's basically believing that you are a victim to circumstances and you have no control over your inner peace and joy. This is one of Satan’s biggest lies that trap us. I think we all at some point believe that earthly things will make us happier and more fulfilled. I know I have. The enemy entices us with money, cars, clothes, houses, the wrong people, food, false hopes… all in an attempt to get us to place our identity and our hope in things that come and go. He knows it leads to despair and anxiety… that’s why he wants you to buy into it. Because if he can get you to rely on things rather than God, he’s completed his mission at that point in time. He’s got you.
Everything that you trust in to give you happiness can be stolen from you. Your relationships, your job, your money, your things.. they can all be swept right out from under you… and If your temporary happiness comes from that, you’ll sink. Real joy.. true joy… cannot be taken from us. Your looks, your weight, your appearance doesn’t give you true joy. I used to think it would. I used to think that being a certain weight would make me a better and happier person. Another lie I bought into. It actually made me sick, weak, and irritable. No external factor can satisfy you. We weren’t created to be fulfilled by things. We receive fulfillment and wholeness from a relationship with Christ. That hole you feel, that longing for something… that’s a void only God can fill.
You don’t have to be a victim to your circumstances. If your hope, if your trust is in God and his faithfulness, that can’t be shaken. It can’t be removed from you. I haven’t met many people that were unshakeable. It’s certainly a goal of mine… to place my trust in Him so much that my circumstances have nothing to do with my joy and peace. It’s something I strive for daily, but it’s certainly not perfected. But if I can at the least make you aware of where your joy comes from, letting you know that outside factors don’t have to control you and our emotions, you can stop and think the next time something goes wrong… “I don’t have to let this circumstance steal my joy.” It’s a choice. We get to choose our reaction and our feelings.
The enemy will lie and tell you there’s no way to control your feelings. That you are a victim. And you have no choice but to react to the circumstance in a negative way. It’s just who you are he says. You can’t help it. The enemy points out our weaknesses, but God says you have strength in Him. Joshua 1:9 commands us to be strong and courageous. The enemy says play the victim. So who do you believe. Do you believe God when he says your joy is found in Him and that you are able to do anything if you love and serve him? Or do you believe Satan, the father of lies and destroyer of souls, when he says that you have to be angry, sad, distraught, anxious, and fearful.
You get to choose friend.
Alright ya'll... that's what I have for you today. These beliefs are so crucial for you to be aware of and to challenge consistently. If you want to live a life well-lived and a more fulfilled life, you've got to challenge these beliefs.
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