Finding Joy where You Are

I talk about mindset pretty often because it’s the basis of our habits, behaviors, successes, and failures. There’s a reason my tag line says “Mind Right, Body Tight.” It’s because true lasting joy does not come from the ideal body. I’ve been 20lbs heavier than I am now and full of peace, and I’ve been 15lbs lighter than I am now, and full of anxiety. Sounds weird right? Sometimes our minds tell us, if we could just lose the 10lbs we’d be happier, if I could just earn more money, I’d be happier, if I could just do… whatever… I’d be happy. No. Those are silly little lies. DO NOT buy into them. Trust me… I’ve learned from hard experience.


The truth is, we have got to rewire our brains, train them if you will, to find contentment and lasting joy regardless of circumstances, regardless of our wealth or lack of, regardless of our gravitational pull to the earth (your weight). Your value is far beyond those things…. Those are things that will not last forever. What does last are healthy relationships, memories you cherish, and of course, God and His love for us. Other than that girl… let it go!


I am NOT saying that goals aren’t important. I’m saying before you start working towards those goals, set your mind to focus on what’s most important in life so that if things do not go perfectly as planned, you are not devasted and give up. If you don’t lose the 10lbs in a few months, it’s silly to just give up on yourself. Your mind begins to tell you that you’re a failure, you’ve done this before and it’s so typical that you failed, that you’re not consistent or that somehow other people just have it easier than you. Stop those thoughts! They are detrimental to your very being. Realize that your worth does not come from the size


or shape of your body, it doesn’t come from how much money you make, etc. I believe our worth comes from God and that he provides us with relationships that remind us of our worth.


As a Psych ma